Blazingtransfem98
2d ago
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Yeah I don't talk to that old witch anymore. I have friends who are supportive. Sometimes a little too supportive though, like telling me my voice sounds fine or passes when it clearly doesn't pass. I'm glad they're nice but passing or not passing isn't about me feeling better about myself, it's about not being clocked by bigots who might be transphobic to me or hurt me.
Blazingtransfem98
4d ago
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Oh yeah. I remember lots of stupid excuses. Like that I didn't want to be trans because it was hard, or saying that I was a boy because I have a dick. Some of them were really stupid excuses. I once said I didn't want to be a girl because if I was trans I couldn't do sports. I don't even like sports and was never good at them, that was pure cope.
Blazingtransfem98
5d ago
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My mother uses that excuse though, same excuse she uses to call me my old name, and to say that I'm a man. Horrible old witch. I know it's an excuse because she doesn't bother correcting herself, she keeps going and is insistent that I'm actually a man and that it can't be changed.
Blazingtransfem98
5d ago
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I started transitioning 2 years before the pandemic, but it was still nice to be at home and not having to deal with people in person. Lots of people were and still are not very accepting of my transition.
Blazingtransfem98
5d ago
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I'm doing better now. That was before I was on HRT that I tried to do away with them myself. I'm feeling better now, less grossed out and uncomfortable because of how much they've shrank. I still wish they were completely gone though.
Blazingtransfem98
6d ago
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Probably not, also many animes have themes they probably don't like.
Blazingtransfem98
6d ago
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If only breaking the egg were that easy, young me was so stubborn and in denial it took going through fuck ton of pain and crippling gender dysphoria to finally make me understand and stop being stupid.
Blazingtransfem98
6d ago
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Tucking literally isn't enough for me, I feel dysphoria because I have it, not just because other people see it. I still feel it and know its there. It feels gross, it makes me feel gross. I just wish it was gone 😭
Blazingtransfem98
6d ago
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Yes I really want it. I don't really care about wearing these tight looking outfits. I just want to not have these things (my penis and my testicles) hanging between my legs, they're disgusting. HRT has shrank them a lot but I would be much happier if they were completely gone and I had a vagina, or even nothing at all. I'd rather have nothing than have them. I did actually try to cut them off before but I didn't have it in me to get little more than through the surface before backing out from the blood and pain.
Blazingtransfem98
6d ago
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Not even a little bit surprising. It is Trump after all.
Blazingtransfem98
6d ago
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Their exact words were "You are a freak who is pretending to be a woman, you are a man and will never be a woman" I then told them I'm getting bottom surgery to correct the problem they said "That's not a thing, you were born with a penis and testicles and you'll always have a penis and testicles. Facts over feelings." I can't say what they said afterwards because it had a lot of slurs. Suffice to say they weren't smart enough to be saying my genitals will be male sex, they just meant I would always have a penis.
Yeah I did block them, and reported them. Doubt anything will happen to them for it though. Twitter sucks.
Blazingtransfem98
1w ago
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Used to think that cis people normally think that they are girls or dislike their genitals, and that it was a phase I would grow out of. I didn't, it just got worse and it was from browsing r/egg_irl and r/traa that made me realize that I was wrong and in-denial.
Blazingtransfem98
1w ago
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I want that so badly, even though I pass well enough now, I would love to be cute like that since I'm not super feminine as I am now. If I got the money I would use it to finally get voice surgery and bottom surgery.
Blazingtransfem98
1w ago
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Mine was very slow compared to other people, maybe it was because the DIY estrogen I had is weaker or maybe I could've gone with a higher dose. I've been on it for about 6 years and by now I for the most part completely pass except for my voice. It did take about twice as long as shown or more for me to show some of the changes. Thankfully for me hair loss isn't common in my family so I'm lucky I never had to deal with that (my grandfather is in his 80s and still has a full head of hair, it's completely white but it's still lush and thick)
Blazingtransfem98
1w ago
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Maybe, that's weird, it's still up on my instance and they've been still able to respond
https://discuss.online/comment/11427017
Blazingtransfem98
1w ago
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Probably, most of the ones on Lemmy.world are on the covert side, using dogwhistles and subtle language, to convey their points that most other people, mods included usually miss.
Blazingtransfem98
1w ago
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They seem quite proud of it too, this was their response when questioned about it:
https://reddthat.com/comment/13725720
Blazingtransfem98
1w ago
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I don't think any of them compare to lemmy.world. I've seen people openly right wing there, and I've seen them downvote people for no apparent reason other than being openly trans. I've been trying to report these incidents when they happen but I feel like it's useless since they never do anything, even when the people are homed on their instance.
Blazingtransfem98
1w ago
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I actually saw this guy replying to one of my comments in !trans@lemmy.blahaj.zone hard to believe he isn't banned sitewide there. They usually ban alt-right fash like him pretty quickly.
Blazingtransfem98
1w ago
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Wasn't even a BBEG, was just a random NPC in the party that party members would make fun of for being "a man pretending to be a woman". The character remained in the party through the whole campaign and only served the purpose of being the butt of transphobic humor. I don't even think they had good stats or abilities.
Other day I made a post about transphobia in the Fediverse and I crossposted to several communities, one of them was !fediverse@lemmy.zip. It seems the post I made attracted the attention of the mod and he decided to come over to this community and post transphobia apologia here. He was banned shortly afterwards. I would encourage people here to avoid that community, and any other communities he moderates. Since as a moderator he can easily exercise his power to silence dissenting views and to intimidate others. It's not best to participate there. I don't know of many good ones that could be used instead, perhaps someone could start a fediverse community on lemmy.blahaj.zone, but that's beside the point of the post. Main point is to share this information with the community so you can avoid using a community run by a known transphobe.
cross-posted from: https://discuss.online/post/12273255 I've only been on Lemmy a few days and I've already witnessed a lot of thinly veiled transphobia, anything from people dismissing the existence of trans people, to trying to claim we are predators. I've also seen people downvoted in the general communities for expressing trans support, or seemingly for no reason other than simply being openly trans or visibly queer. I know it's an ongoing effort to moderate transphobia on Lemmy, and the fediverse as a whole. We have to also address mentions of thinly veiled transphobia and transphobic users. Transphobia isn't just a differing opinion, it is a dangerous hateful sentiment which causes harm to vulnerable people and it needs to be addressed, at the instance and community level. We need to put in the effort to identify transphobic dogwhistles and language used by transphobes to eradicate this type of behavior from our communities and servers alike. Some people will argue that the light stuff isn't something to worry about, but that's not true. This is a tactic they use to blend in with normies and make them think that nothing they are doing or saying is wrong. It's what transphobic right-wing YouTubers and Facebook users do to avoid being banned for hate speech. We are better than these corporations though, Fediverse is run by communities and for the users, we should not let these things slide as easily as Corporations do, they're in it to make money, we... We're in it to create a community for the users. Part of that means kicking out those who don't have all our best interests at heart.
cross-posted from: https://discuss.online/post/12273255 I've only been on Lemmy a few days and I've already witnessed a lot of thinly veiled transphobia, anything from people dismissing the existence of trans people, to trying to claim we are predators. I've also seen people downvoted in the general communities for expressing trans support, or seemingly for no reason other than simply being openly trans or visibly queer. I know it's an ongoing effort to moderate transphobia on Lemmy, and the fediverse as a whole. We have to also address mentions of thinly veiled transphobia and transphobic users. Transphobia isn't just a differing opinion, it is a dangerous hateful sentiment which causes harm to vulnerable people and it needs to be addressed, at the instance and community level. We need to put in the effort to identify transphobic dogwhistles and language used by transphobes to eradicate this type of behavior from our communities and servers alike. Some people will argue that the light stuff isn't something to worry about, but that's not true. This is a tactic they use to blend in with normies and make them think that nothing they are doing or saying is wrong. It's what transphobic right-wing YouTubers and Facebook users do to avoid being banned for hate speech. We are better than these corporations though, Fediverse is run by communities and for the users, we should not let these things slide as easily as Corporations do, they're in it to make money, we... We're in it to create a community for the users. Part of that means kicking out those who don't have all our best interests at heart.
cross-posted from: https://discuss.online/post/12273255 I've only been on Lemmy a few days and I've already witnessed a lot of thinly veiled transphobia, anything from people dismissing the existence of trans people, to trying to claim we are predators. I've also seen people downvoted in the general communities for expressing trans support, or seemingly for no reason other than simply being openly trans or visibly queer. I know it's an ongoing effort to moderate transphobia on Lemmy, and the fediverse as a whole. We have to also address mentions of thinly veiled transphobia and transphobic users. Transphobia isn't just a differing opinion, it is a dangerous hateful sentiment which causes harm to vulnerable people and it needs to be addressed, at the instance and community level. We need to put in the effort to identify transphobic dogwhistles and language used by transphobes to eradicate this type of behavior from our communities and servers alike. Some people will argue that the light stuff isn't something to worry about, but that's not true. This is a tactic they use to blend in with normies and make them think that nothing they are doing or saying is wrong. It's what transphobic right-wing YouTubers and Facebook users do to avoid being banned for hate speech. We are better than these corporations though, Fediverse is run by communities and for the users, we should not let these things slide as easily as Corporations do, they're in it to make money, we... We're in it to create a community for the users. Part of that means kicking out those who don't have all our best interests at heart.
I've only been on Lemmy a few days and I've already witnessed a lot of thinly veiled transphobia, anything from people dismissing the existence of trans people, to trying to claim we are predators. I've also seen people downvoted in the general communities for expressing trans support, or seemingly for no reason other than simply being openly trans or visibly queer. I know it's an ongoing effort to moderate transphobia on Lemmy, and the fediverse as a whole. We have to also address mentions of thinly veiled transphobia and transphobic users. Transphobia isn't just a differing opinion, it is a dangerous hateful sentiment which causes harm to vulnerable people and it needs to be addressed, at the instance and community level. We need to put in the effort to identify transphobic dogwhistles and language used by transphobes to eradicate this type of behavior from our communities and servers alike. Some people will argue that the light stuff isn't something to worry about, but that's not true. This is a tactic they use to blend in with normies and make them think that nothing they are doing or saying is wrong. It's what transphobic right-wing YouTubers and Facebook users do to avoid being banned for hate speech. We are better than these corporations though, Fediverse is run by communities and for the users, we should not let these things slide as easily as Corporations do, they're in it to make money, we... We're in it to create a community for the users. Part of that means kicking out those who don't have all our best interests at heart.
Seriously why? It feels like they think it's really funny, to make us try and present feminine to get what we need to feel better. Like it's a fetish to see what they think is a man dressed as a woman asking for estrogen. My doctor and therapist called me he/him even though I told him she/her multiple times, I practically yelled at him for his repeated misgendering, he didn't care. I wish I knew why doctors and therapists put these ridiculous requirements on people. It's not like people are taking estrogen recreationally, like for real what is this for. Also how does me wearing a dress when I have face stubble and a masculine body prove I "feel like a woman" dumb fucks just want to see what they think is a man wearing a dress. It's obvious they believe I'm a man. I wasn't willing to degrade myself or sink to that level, I wouldn't have been able to live with myself. I got DIY, was the only option left that didn't involve degrading myself for those pigs and still getting denied anyway. I'm sorry, I've had a bad day lately and I was recently reminded of this shit.