Are skincare routines worth it?
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    1y ago 100%

    I think people over complicate skin care, but then again my skin isn’t fussy so I don’t know the struggle. I think SPF is the most important thing because UV is basically the biggest cause for wrinkles. So if you want to start simple, just a morning face moisturizer with SPF is great.

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  • Who is your favorite marriage candidate and why?
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    1y ago 100%

    I initially loved Shane my very first farm, but then once I married him, his room was disgusting and it probably smells really bad. I can’t just use him for the blue chickens and divorce him either. I’ll be his friend and help him through his difficult times, but won’t marry him again. I always make sure to give him peppers for gifts since they’re loved and don’t enable his drinking.

    I really like Abigail! I feel like I’m rescuing her from Pierre lol. I like her adventurous spirit too. I generally marry a new person each play through and also have been considering Sebastian or Krobus!

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  • How do you lead/manage people who are much older than you?
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    1y ago 100%

    You may just have preconceived notions. I’m in a similar position and am trying not to expect this sort of behavior. However my plan is to maintain open and honest communication. If you feel resentment or animosity arising from someone, have a private meeting with them to discuss it. It’s a simple “hey I feel some resentment from you towards myself and/or other teams members and I wanted to clear the air and see if I did something to upset you?”. Usually simple, clear, concise beginnings are best. Get an understanding of why someone is acting a certain way then try to find a way to relate to their emotions. Then you can both try to come up with a way to relieve their resentment and tension between the crew members.

    Another comment said “we’re all adults” but society breeds immaturity and people rarely know how to discuss their emotions so they bottle them and that can manifest as anger or passive aggression. Both of which prolong uneasy feelings for NO reason when a small discussion can usually make things better. Confrontation can be hard at first, but ultimately helps to release pressure from building up inside.

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  • What is the most unhelpful advice you have received?
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    1y ago 100%

    She is just REALLY sheltered and extremely naive. She meant well and is a good person. I said I need to stop drinking because I’ve been drinking too much and that’s when she said that. We had further discussion and she was completely unable to grasp the concepts of addiction. So yeah, I just kinda stopped discussing difficult topics with her because she is unable to understand outside her bubble

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  • So glad this place is on the fediverse! Looking forward to seeing more members and posts. I used to be somewhat active in this community on that other site that we all left that rhymes with deadit. Anyways, I drank heavily for 5-6 years, constantly blacking out and being a really shitty partner and friend. Finally decided my usage was not normal and that I had a problem so committed to sobriety. My current streak is around 10 months because after ~1.5y sober, I thought I was cured and started “moderating” last summer. That lasted a couple months before I was back to the old ways. We all know how that goes. I don’t really count my days because it doesn’t help me at this point but in the beginning it was really awesome seeing 3, 7, 14, 30, and 90 days being strung together of choosing me and my health every single one of those days!

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    What is the most unhelpful advice you have received?
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    Jellojiggle
    1y ago 100%

    That is absolutely what follows. I am doing MUCH better, I’ve had 2.5 years sober in the last 3 years because I thought I was “cured” and started “moderating” last summer. The stop drinking subreddit was amazing insight and help. It’s on lemmy but the only posts are the daily checkin. I should start being more active on it to boost it.

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    1y ago 100%

    You are correct. Thank you for holding me accountable. Sometimes I can be shortsighted, as it is human nature, and not consider the whole story. Sorry OP for coming off as a dick. I am empathetic to your situation and I hope you find some justice and your friend and her child can find a way to leave safely.

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  • What is the most unhelpful advice you have received?
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    1y ago 100%

    “Just have one or two and then stop” when telling a friend I’m an alcoholic. Well shit, thanks! That never even crossed my mind!

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    1y ago 12%

    Why doesn’t your “friend” stick up for you to this asshole? If legal routes don’t work, you can always find some sort of petty revenge to make his life a living hell. If you’re into that kind of thing.

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  • /r/AccidentalRenaissance moderators have all resigned. The subreddit has permanently shut down and moved to Lemmy.
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    1y ago 100%

    Well to hell with Reddit anyways. We’re all here because we all were on thin ice that broke, so welcome :) hope you find the community and discussion you’re looking for here. In my mind, Reddit seems to have enacted their version of martial law with the admins forcing mod teams’ hands. The company has lost site of the true spirit of the site. They are planting in mods that will bow down and do as they’re told.

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  • /r/AccidentalRenaissance moderators have all resigned. The subreddit has permanently shut down and moved to Lemmy.
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    1y ago 100%

    Haha that’s okay! Thanks for the suggestion. I know my instance is not defederated. It could also just be user error, I’ll mess around in browser a bit more and see what I can find out

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  • /r/AccidentalRenaissance moderators have all resigned. The subreddit has permanently shut down and moved to Lemmy.
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    1y ago 100%

    In Memmy, click “search”, type in the community name, and click “search communities”

    The cool thing is you don’t even have to type the whole community name. I was able to just put “accident” as my search and it came up. So click the comm and then click the subscribe button

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  • I think i have a problem
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    1y ago 100%

    Ah I love fishing but I can’t get myself to do anything but standard or four corners farms. Navigating the hilltop farm was annoying for me, I didn’t even finish a year. I worry the same will happen with the river farm.

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  • I think i have a problem
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    1y ago 100%

    You just made me feel a lot better because I also have 700+ hours in Stardew! It’s such a relaxing game with the music and the calming environments and pretty colors.

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  • I just graduated optometry school and I feel like I've lost a bit of my identity. I didn't have much free time to focus on the things that make me happy and now I'm lacking inspiration. I can't work until my license is approved so I've had days of doing nothing since May 7. It's been great but it's starting to get boring; I can only play so much Zelda and doom scroll so often. So whatcha got? What do you like to do? What are some hobbies or passions everyone has? What are non-drinking related activities to do with a partner or friends?

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    I just graduated optometry school and I feel like I’ve lost a bit of my identity. I didn’t have much free time to focus on the things that make me happy and now I’m lacking inspiration. I can’t work until my license is approved so I’ve had days of doing nothing since May 7. It’s been great but it’s starting to get boring; I can only play so much Zelda and doom scroll so often. So whatcha got? What do you like to do? What are some hobbies or passions everyone has? What are non-drinking related activities to do with a partner or friends?

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    https://i.imgur.com/IRCUX6U.jpg

    This is my 6th or so play-through and each time I would work steadily to completely clear my farm so I could maximize the amount of grass that spreads for future animal hay. This time I did four corners (single player), left one corner neglected, and this happened! I then read how it works on the wiki and I understand why I never got them before haha. I am sooooo excited.

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