Vanth 18h ago • 100%
The correct answer is to block that news site or whatever they call themselves, and don't give them clicks.
Vanth 2d ago • 100%
A victim could also stay in their house, never go outside, never talk to anyone to further limit a stalker's access. But they shouldn't have to let a stalker turn their life into an isolated prison.
Blocking people from viewing their account was one tool that was available, and now it's not. People are saying they still want access to that tool and are unhappy it was taken away.
Not sure you're intending to but you're putting a lot of onus on the victim to address the behavior of bad actors.
Women don't want to deal with men who would sexually assault them? Stop wearing "provocative" clothes and going to bars.
Kid doesn't want to get bullied at school? Stop being "weird".
Don't want to be stalked? Stay away from public forums.
These are not solutions, these are ways to put responsibility for bad crimes onto the victims instead of the perpetrators.
Vanth 2d ago • 100%
This morning coffee is so good. Lactose-intolerant partner is gone for a week so I bought real cream to go into it. I don't mind the plant-based stuff at all, the occasional real cream is all the better.
Vanth 2d ago • 100%
No, my salary is currently around average and I set my effort level compared to my coworkers' levels. Any move/promotion paths I'm interested in would not be made easier by giving that full effort.
I look for smart effort, not max effort. The CEO of my company is for damn sure not the hardest working. Hard work is not the full answer to success in this capitalist society.
Vanth 2d ago • 100%
Huh? How? This is the problem I saw too. Knowing details about a victims life feeds stalkers and also gives them opportunities to connect to the victims physical location and movements.
Would blocking a stalker's view of their victim's social media solve the stalking problem entirely? Probably not. Would blocking kill off one lane of information that makes the stalking easier / more psychology rewarding to the stalker? Yes.
Vanth 2d ago • 100%
Sub-zero degree sleeping bag in the trunk of my car, plus a jug of water and some MRE-type food packs with water-activated food warmers. I grew up in a very rural area and got stuck on the side of the road in a blizzard for too long; I came out ok but it was terrifying. Now I live in a densely populated area that doesn't get blizzards but I still prep.
I used to let my toilet paper run nearly down to zero before I bought another pack. The pandemic lockdown months changed that. I used paper towels and liberated a couple rolls from work back in the day. Now I keep more on hand before triggering next buy. Never again.
I'm a good example of "we prep for our fears". I also do backcountry backpacking and everyone in that hobby does to some degree. I go out with a nurse sometimes and her first aid kit is nearly three pounds while mine is a couple bandaids and rubbing alcohol swaps.
Vanth 2d ago • 100%
They wouldn't want me to give 100% effort. There are too many people around me who are new or poorly trained or incompetent. My 100% would involve addressing the poor leadership, poor processes, poor accountability mechanisms that have us in our current situation. So since they would likley fire me for it, they would need to pay me at least three years of industry-standard salary for my position to make up for time unemployed and the black mark on my job history.
Vanth 3d ago • 100%
General Criteria:
Present and potential relevance to community needs
Suitability of physical form for library use
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Importance as a document of the times
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Attention by critics and reviewers
Potential user appeal
Requests by library patrons
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Authority
Comprehensiveness and depth of treatment
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Currency
Technical quality
Representation of diverse points of view
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Relevance and use of the information
Effective characterization
Authenticity of history or social setting
Stolen entirely form here . Seems like a very good starting point to me, as I would expect from a Libraries Association.
Vanth 3d ago • 100%
That's what I would recommend too. Basic Yaktrax run for $20-30 in the US, beefier spikes up around $50-100. Take the leather boots that are already broken in and comfy and just add temporary traction to them at a much lower cost than even the cheapest new boots.
Vanth 3d ago • 75%
Sooooo, do this but in a language that "counts"?
Vanth 3d ago • 100%
Vanth 3d ago • 100%
No. Next.
Vanth 3d ago • 100%
Yeah. I haven't always been very comfortable with it, I made active effort to learn ways to make it easier.
I also lived in the Midwest for a while where asking someone "How are you doing" is an actual invitation to conversation and not just a response of "fine". I learned some people are very open to chitchat with strangers, some people aren't, and it gets pretty easy with practice to tell which is which noting body language and those first few words they respond to you with.
Also, you're doing it now, OP. Way to go. Forum conversations like this totally count. Maybe next level up for you is some IM chatting with someone from a hobby group you're interested in.
Vanth 3d ago • 100%
The leaves are turning up in New England. We're going to go for a drive, a short hike or two, and stop by any roadside shop we see selling fall goodies like apple cider. And then home in the evening to watch some horror movies. 'Tis the season.
Vanth 3d ago • 100%
Oat for most things. Extra creamy.
Almond for a fewthings. Like I prefer almond in a bowl of cereal. Silk has an unsweetened one with extra protein that is my go to.
Vanth 3d ago • 100%
IMO, LGBT descriptors came from that community. Until the autism community develops their own descriptors and hits some critical mass in agreement, it's not any random person's place to develop terms for them.
LGBT communities hit major levels of activity and visibility to the public decades ago. My cousin isn't getting the autism diagnosis she needs today because multiple medical professionals she's been to still think girls can't have autism.
It doesn't surprise me some people like your friend are developing some terms. While people like my cousin and her mom are going to be spending their energy on other priorities.
Vanth 4d ago • 100%
Nose swab into a piece of lab equipment about the size of a bread toaster. They put the swab into the thing right in front of me but I didn't note any further details about the equipment.
I went in for strep testing (which is what it ended up being). They advised covid test too due to local outbreak, I predicted that they might so had done some prep research and thought I could expect a much lower bill.
Lesson learned, avoid getting tested for covid 😂
Vanth 4d ago • 100%
☝️ recently got a covid test that based on all my research beforehand, it should have been covered except for $10 I would pay.
Jokes on me, it actually cost me $200 they charged to my credit card two weeks later. I didn't even get to know the price at the time I needed medical care.
Sometimes other countries make fun of America for things they don't understand. Not on this one, America deserves every bit of mocking it gets for it's medical coverage atrocity.
Vanth 4d ago • 100%
Working in clothing retail probably did some, but not as much as playing sports with other women and seeing a diversity of bodies kick ass. I played a sport with a very wide band of body type variability needed: giraffes, speed demons, bruisers, immoveable brick walls. An appreciation for the beauty of an athlete doing their thing did extend some to bodies in general. And it helped shape my own perception of my body in a positive way. But never enough to erase the negative lessons taught to girls/women from other pressures.
Shout-out to Ilona Maher, US Olympian in rugby, hella good social media poster including excellent dialogue on this very topic. If a person does the social media thing of following celebrities, I highly recommend her.
More than anything, working in clothing retail further confirmed for me that clothing sizes are inconsistent and arbitrary and should not be used to make judgments on anyone's health.
Inspired by a post since deleted, I feel bad for probably coming off judgemental about the poster's taste in the movie that drove him to consider sailing. The earliest desired media I can remember that drove me to figure out sailing was DC Talk, a Christian rock band. Pop music was not allowed in my house, so a Christian group was tantalizing and scandalous to a rebellious, young Vanth. Things escalated from there.