fracture 1d ago • 83%
you're being homophobic and kind of racist, too (not all ethnicities grow very much body hair, but apparently being attracted to them would also make you a pedo). so if you're not right wing, you're sure acting like it
i hope you have a really unpleasant day and get banned
fracture 1d ago • 92%
my good person, you need to take a break from the right wing alarm machines
you are the only one here who is uneducated enough to think that "weight and body hair" are the only signs of post-puberty maturity in men
a lot of men don't put on weight well into their 20s, for reasons which are completely explainable without "second puberty", something you entirely brought into this conversation as a strawman to knock down by yourself
a lot of men also have trouble growing body hair. not every man is a big hairy fuck (affectionate, as i am a big hairy fuck). also, plenty of men shave their body hair, and it's still fine to be attracted to them. are you going to start calling straight men pedophiles for being attracted to shaved women???
you may also note that twinks are famously attractive for being quite muscular, which is very difficult to achieve without the heightened testosterone levels post-puberty
please stop posting these deliberate false exaggerated takes. it's really ruining the vibe, tbh
(ps: second puberty is a thing, but it's a trans person thing, so it's not part of this argument)
fracture 2d ago • 100%
i like this question
one of the major roadblocks to figuring out i was trans is that a lot of my self value and perspective of the world was rooted in being a woman
the night i realized that wasn't true, that i wasn't a woman, that i probably had never been a woman, was truly incredible. everything i knew about the world fell away and for a short time, i saw everything with fresh eyes. nothing i had learned before was taken for granted; everything was subject to change, everything needed to be checked again
of course, over the course of the next week or so, i found that indeed, the world worked pretty similarly to how i had figured it did before. but ever since, a lot of things have changed, too. for example, it's very hard to assume that people's genders are set in stone anymore. prior, i thought them to be fairly rigid, known early in life. and now it's more like... if you're cis, it's a little harder to assume you'll always be cis, since most cis people haven't gone through the internal work to even be open to the possibility that they're not cis, nevermind the various threats to life and identity that come with it...
anyways, the point i was trying to get by talking about all this is- especially over the last decade or so, where i found out a lot of people i looked up to or even aspired to be like were total shitbags- i think that rooting your identity is a mistake
let yourself be open to being whatever you're composed of at the moment... knowing you might need to release it in the next. appreciate it while it's there, understand what you get out of it, and don't be afraid to fall into its absence... trust that you'll always find the solid ground of yourself below it
fracture 2d ago • 100%
beyond the obvious ways this is fucked up, imagining this happening with AI gen text is insane. trying to craft a post to both empathize with another poster, kindly demonstrate flaws in thinking or logic about a point they usually care a lot about, and trying to explain how the different point of view better supports the things they care about it such a monumental effort already that AI just cannot do. no actual persuasion will come out of this (not that a ton happens on the internet to begin with, but even less than that)
and honestly if you're firehosing people like that, AI is just going to absolutely drown out any actual communication from happening. at some point, we'll just have bots going to war for us about our points, and no one will be reading it
fracture 6d ago • 100%
big shoutout HOTS... i should tap back in... FUCK deadlock (note: this user has not played deadlock)
fracture 1w ago • 85%
the survival story was beautiful. marco should be extremely proud of reraising himself and achieving a happy life
it was also shocking to see that this is maybe the link between homosexuality and pedophilia that the right are so often trying to warn people about. it's... truly horrific, what kentler did to these kids. and kind of infuriating that his actions would be linked to homosexuality as a whole
it's not like i don't have any empathy for him, he was a product of... deeply fucked up people, people who also judged and shunned homosexuality. but what he did is just absolutely fucking vile
fracture 2w ago • 100%
that's true, but there's also an argument of resources and conformity to consider. oppressive regiemes also have large amounts of media at their disposal and tend to be very good at issuing orders from the top down, so their ability to define things is pretty strong
we don't really... have those things :') so our ability to make an impact isn't really as great, i would think. and given that, maybe it's best to recognize and educate people on what the existing dog whistles are, rather than trying to reclaim them?
fracture 2w ago • 100%
really would like to see the article if you have it on hand. i can see the argument for both sides, so i would like to read more and potentially be persuaded one way or the other
fracture 2w ago • 100%
are you working out? if not, it won't happen very fast, or at least, it's much better when you're working out
also, iirc you were on low dose? are you still on low dose? (am i remembering correctly? lol)
fracture 2w ago • 100%
you might want to spoiler tag this but congrats!!!
fracture 3w ago • 100%
this is something i didn't realize until recently, but you really gotta be on washing that shit weekly. i used to think it wasn't a big deal, you could just do it every couple of weeks / once a month, but you sleep WAY better when you wash them weekly because your body and skin don't have to hold off a trillion bacteria trying to get into your body / getting allergies triggered by dust mites
although, to be honest, i would never have figured that out without dealing with a persistent vaginal infection because of it... 😭 at least i'm like 95% sure that's the cause atm. i guess i'll edit my comment in two months when i can confirm it (i'm testing this as of about a week rn)
fracture 3w ago • 100%
i would have liked it if this had offered a COVID perspective on communal baths. i'm inclined to think that a hot moist environment is a likely place for it to flourish, and it seems odd to neglect to mention that three years of a pandemic probably had an outsize impact on the number of bathhouses still open in 2022
obviously we probably don't have a ton of data on how to circulate air and filter COVID out of bathhouses, but i also bet there's a way to do it in a relatively energy efficient way
anyways, it feels like a major spot that's lacking in an otherwise informative and well thought out read
fracture 3w ago • 100%
really good thoughts and write up that you linked, thanks
fracture 3w ago • 100%
that's YOUR union, go get involved and fix it!
even unions are gonna eventually fall to corruption and laziness if ppl think they'll solve your problems for you
the union IS you (and your coworkers)
fracture 4w ago • 100%
not until they've unionized ✊
fracture 1mo ago • 100%
it's really cool having the correct hormones nowadays. funny how you don't like your body much if you don't
i'm really happy about looking my age / looking like an adult nowadays. and i've been going to the gym, so it's been pretty cool putting on muscle and getting stronger and stuff
i guess it's not AGING aging, but it's stuff i def appreciate (i'm in my early thirties for context)
fracture 1mo ago • 100%
there's been a recent meme of responding to people making any remarks related to the ps5/ps5 pro by saying "notice how they're X instead of playing games on the ps5", with the implication that the ps5 has no games
e.g. notice how they're arguing online about the ps5 instead of playing games on the ps5
it's not a very serious bit (since obv people can do more than one thing) but it's also funny because it's purposely being obtuse about the situation
fracture 1mo ago • 100%
thanks for taking my words into consideration. i don't think your post in isolation is really harmful, but it's more of like, what sort of culture do we want to create? i've been online for a long time and in a decent number of trans spaces, so i've thought about it a lot, and it can be easy to slip into these sort of nefarious and unhealthy thought patterns
always easier to think about these things upfront, rather than trying to wrangle them when they've taken root and people have become accustomed to them
fracture 1mo ago • 100%
that's so crazy they're really double dipping in that the shooter hates queer ppl and then the media calls him queer to slander queer ppl
STOP, pick one ffs
see OP: https://beehaw.org/post/14997523 sorry for the delay on the writeup! life is pretty busy for me. that said, the bottom surgery consult went pretty well all around, i think as a quick note, i've been presenting and on HRT for about 4.5 years, so i don't think about it much. but the requirements for getting metoidioplasty (or the consult, even) is to be on HRT for at least a (continuous) year and (maybe optionally?) presenting male for the same amount of time (i actually wasn't clear on this, they asked me, but i'm not sure if there was a strict minimum). they also required me to get two referral letters from qualified mental health professionals (thankfully, my therapist and psychiatrist were able to write these for me) i got shown in and talked with the assistant, who basically broke down the surgery and went over the different customizable parts (e.g. you can get different kinds of meta, you can optionally get urethral lengthening, scrotoplasty, testicular implants, etc) after that, dr. keith came in to chat with me. after that, i had to undress from the waist down. you'll have to be comfortable with a doc poking around your bits, but i would hope you are, if you're coming to let them slice them up and re-arrange them, too. during this, he pulled my mons pubis back to give an example of how things would look if he did a mons resection (said i might even need a revision, too 😭) after that, i re-dressed and we went into his office, which had a big fancy leather couch, and talked about the anatomy of the AFAB clitoris and its blood supplies, as well as bemoaning the current state of both scientific studies on women and trans people. he showed me pictures of his work (very good) which spans both metoidioplasty to various degrees and phalloplasty if i were to decide to get the metoidioplasty, they would schedule 3 months of topical testosterone to be applied to the gland of the clitoris every day, along with instructions to pump every day for those 3 months. it gives them more tissue to work with, according to the doctor. it's important to note that dr. keith is making you responsible for working with your current testosterone prescribing doctor to monitor your testosterone levels, because it will elevate them, and you will likely need to reduce your dosage to account for the topical testosterone overall, it was a good and educational visit. i didn't learn TOO much, because i have done a lot of research ahead of time, but the things i did learn were very important: * urethral lengthening without vaginoplasty: in general, apparently urethral lengthening is, by far, the riskiest part of meta/phallo. dr. keith compared doing UL without vaginoplasty as akin to building a house on an unsteady foundation. he also cited something like a 60% complication rate from the other doctors who do UL without vaginoplasty. as mentioned in my OP, i'm not too keen on UL myself, due to a large typical ejaculation volume, so i'm not that hung up on it. although thinking about it now, i think i would potentially feel weirder about it, post-surgery, than i do now. well, i'll sort it out later... * phalloplasty following meta: dr. keith says this is totally fine. there'll be some extra scar tissue due to the meta, but it's not a problem. he also said that it's not his first choice to do meta and then phallo, like, if it's possible for you to settle on phallo first, it is a little better. but you can definitely do meta and then phallo * reduction of labia majora: totally possible, mons resection, might require a revision if you have a lot * HGH treatment: a complete no, it's not studied / proven in any way and it's not legal in the US. very understandable answer, but i did have to ask LOL * (not in the original post) ordering of hysterectomy and metoidioplasty: the order doesn't really matter, but the hysto is a big surgery, so if i did it first, i'd need to give it at least 3 months before getting the metoidioplasty. i didn't ask about the reverse order, but i think it would probably be similar * (not in the original post) insertion of a semi-rigid prosthesis in meta patients (https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/26895269.2023.2279273): i found this after my original post, but apparently there are some docs that are doing meta with a semi-rigid prosthesis. if you don't know, the clitoral bodies are wrapped by the tunica albueinea, just like in the penis, but the clitoral tunica only has one layer (whereas the penial tunica has 2); so it's more difficult to get hard for trans men. so the insertion of a semi-rigid prosthesis is an appealing option to mitigate this. i asked dr. keith about this, and he mentioned that the device is being used and implanted successfully by doctors in europe. unfortuately, they're not seeking FDA approval in the US because it's expensive and the market share is too small, but i had the option to travel over there if it was something i wanted (and he would refer me, as well) * dr. keith also mentioned that there are similar devices which are FDA approved for cisgender men, so somewhat jokingly, i said that, if i got big enough, he would be able to put one of those in me. he said he has both never seen someone get that big (at least 4 inches) and that he's never implanted one himself, but it was at least FDA approved so overall, a very good visit. the only thing i would want them to improve is to give their own pronouns before asking for yours. i get they're trying to be polite, but it feels a bit like asking for someone's name before you give your own, you know? but otherwise, i felt like they were very kind, professional, and knowledgeable about the whole process as for whether or not i'm going to get surgery at this point, i think i'm gonna figure out how to go to south korea. i realized it's probably... not _cheap_ but much more affordable if i just fly there and get the HGH, instead of flying there and getting the HGH and meta. i'm gonna call (at some point) and talk to them about it, get information about flying to south korea, see if the 2 week covid quarantine is still in effect, etc etc. if i do that, i will be sure to post here about how it goes, as well :) hope this was informative and educational for everyone here about what your goals might be for the future!
hey y'all, i have my bottom surgery consult on tuesday, for metoidioplasty, specifically. at the moment, i'm not interested in pursuing phalloplasty, although i'm not taking it off the table entirely, it's for a later time the doctor i will be consulting with is dr jonathan keith in new jersey i wanted to give y'all the opportunity to post any questions you might have about it. i might be able to answer myself, but if not, i will try to ask the doctor as well for full context, i don't expect to schedule the surgery coming out of this appointment. * i am going to ask about the potential of HGH treatment to improve bottom growth, as one clinic in south korea is pursuing (https://www.urodoc.co/ftm-metoidioplasty.htm) * i also plan to ask about options for reduction of the labia majora, because that's a big concern i have with my body, specifically * additionally, i will ask about how a theoretical phalloplasty following metoidioplasty would work * finally, i will also ask about urethral lengthening without vaginoplasty (my preferred option), although i expect the doc will confirm what the research says about the heightened risk of urethral fistula post surgery. i'm also not sure that it's something i'd want, as i think my typical ejaculation volume would be... *inconvenient* for sex, to say the least also on my list, but not strictly about the surgery, is asking about the anatomy of the arterial structures that feed the clitoral cavernosum bodies (i know their penial analogues and can find decent diagrams, but finding the equivalent clitoral diagrams is challenging) i will write a follow up post with this information, as well as my general experience at the appointment, after it happens on tuesday (probably wed or thurs)
i got top surgery (double mastectomy) like 3.5 years ago now. i stuck to massaging my scars because i didn't actually want to reduce the appearance of my scars (idk why i was worried about this, they're fucking massive LOL). i was more concerned with blood flow / nerve functionality than appearance however, that was 3.5 years ago and, due to some unrelated scarring (i scar like a mfer (i keloid a lot)), i got recommended to get some silicone tape, so i was like, what the hell, i'll put it on my top scars too i also got nipple grafts, so i've been putting it on the edges of my nipples as well (i've noticed they're scarred quite badly on the outside) note that my skin seems to be allergic to the glue in standard adhesives, so i've actually been using silicone _gel_, just applied topically twice a day, instead of silicone tape / strips (i'm also using a lot, so it would be a lot of tape to put on / take off / clean every day... the gel you just wash off) it's a really good excuse to be shirtless more often during the day, and the results have been pretty promising thus far, 2 weeks in. my scars already feel a lot softer. i think the gel has also been helping things get cleaned out... my scars have been a little prickly and itchy, which is generally a good sign for that happening. so you might consider it for helping restore your blood flow / nerve functionality as well also cool that it's still working after this many years... i guess 3.5 years is a lot to some people, but not a lot in the absolute scale of things just something for y'all to think about. i've heard it _does_ help reduce the appearance of scars, if that's something you want (i think they look badass, so i'm tryina show em off) for the science of how this works, from what i've found, we can consistently reproduce the effects of softening / reducing scars, but we have no actual idea how it works LOL. so that's kind of interesting have you gotten top surgery? what kind, and did / do you use silicone for treating the scars? if you haven't gotten top surgery, is this something you'd want to do? (additional note: i'm not sure how long you need to wait after getting top surgery to apply the silicone tape/gel, but i would check w/ your doc and wait till they're fully healed at the very least)
when it gets difficult to get gel out of the pump, i was tossing the bottle. but because of laziness, i left an old bottle for a day, and i noticed that it actually can generate enough pressure to pump more testosterone since i had left it alone for that long so if you keep your low bottles of testosterone gel, you can get one pump out of them per day for longer than you might think they're empty, and extend the lifespan of your testosterone gel for a little while *dependent on if your testosterone gel bottles work the same as mine obligatory reminder that gel is just as good as injected :)
