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Just thought this pic was cool and wanted to share. I also should mention I found the pic is this thread which is pretty great: https://xcancel.com/ninejackrose/status/1836818649421861046

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Was registering for my first 5k and put my gender down as NB. Then I found out it's not just basic info; there's like separate awards for men, women and nonbinary people. Been identifying as NB for a couple of years low-key irl, but I usually just pass as male out of convenience. I didn't know how it was going to so official. Anyway, I'm going to be running as an official representative of the secret DLC gender that you only get after double prestiging a base game gender ![hexbear-non-binary](https://lemm.ee/api/v3/image_proxy?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.hexbear.net%2Fpictrs%2Fimage%2Fbe675604-1a36-407a-b455-d5fa9db8575c.png "emoji hexbear-non-binary")

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cross-posted from: https://hexbear.net/post/3433723 > This post was inspired partly by [@khizuo@hexbear.net](https://hexbear.net/u/khizuo) , thank u. > > I had her famous-unfinished novel-manuscript *Otros Valles* on my to-read list since I knew it was a thing, (maybe five years ago) but only when I went to look for it did I realise the author had deliberately wiped her presence from everywhere, basically. > > Back then I could only find a couple of her essays knocking around pirate sites, nothing more. Coincidentally they are [here](https://annas-archive.org/md5/2185c4b076c3e75a2b9c6020b1d0ec6d) and [here,](https://annas-archive.org/md5/450436665fd3b0ed5a0a2139934c74e0) with *Mutual Aid Printing* not being listed on her Goodreads page or anything like that. > > I guess the question I have is whether or not making a post like this is a bad thing to do? If you read *Mutual Aid Printing,* the author's intent of wiping herself from the general record as a sort of form of protest is very clear. So I've never really known how cool or uncool it is to even talk about her work. Should I literally not read her stuff, or is the broad statement more the point, and whatever you find is whatever you find? I guess it's kind of semantics, but there's a twinge in my brain that says yapping loudly about Berrout's work may be a foot-in-mouth move. > > The other thing, which Berrout also discusses in both linked essays, is that the writers' communities/interlinked social webs/who fucking knows, queer artist's collectives she ran in were often obnoxiously white. I think Ryka Aoki is the only published transfem poc I can think of? Binnie, Peters, Felker-Martin, so on... Please inform me if I've missed anything, I'm not a full historian, simply a dumbass. > > So aside from the fact that Berrout represents a rare voice in the space, I like how Otros Valles contrasts and almost critiques Nevada. It has none of the dejected, self-deprecating artifice. I dunno if I'm fit to talk about it but it keeps biting at my mind, and I'm not really sure if I should yap. Thoughts? Opinions? Criticisms? Call me cringe? ✨

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S4xCbmCG2Rc

I found this video very fascinating and would love to hear all my fellow non-cishets feel about it. Personally I found it really cool and extremely informative, particularly the bit about "heterosexuality" particularly as an identity being fairly new concepts. Really makes ya think.

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It is victim blaming, we are not the reason homophobia exists or that people become extremely homophobic. It is not oppressed people that cause their own oppression, we don’t in some way “deserve” it. Some aspects of the identity of sexuality may be related to physical and things we cannot control, but at the end of the day it is an identity. If they do not see themselves as gay, they are not. It is not for you to assign an identity to someone, even someone you don’t like. Even if someone might identify as gay outside of these power structures, in here they aren’t. Even if they would be gay, they participate in our oppression because being straight is beneficial to them, not because they “are secretly gay”. If they did homophobia because they were “ashamed” it wouldn’t be helping so many of them get into positions of power

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![hexbear-bi-2](https://lemm.ee/api/v3/image_proxy?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.hexbear.net%2Fpictrs%2Fimage%2Fe2c06bf3-795e-451c-b4de-76f28434ec50.png "emoji hexbear-bi-2") ![solidarity](https://lemm.ee/api/v3/image_proxy?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.hexbear.net%2Fpictrs%2Fimage%2F21cec127-9d8d-4b1b-8073-52933d3b5a33.png "emoji solidarity") ![hexbear-trans](https://lemm.ee/api/v3/image_proxy?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.hexbear.net%2Fpictrs%2Fimage%2F065ed831-bcb6-485c-b7a1-2f560d3099c3.png "emoji hexbear-trans") Someday we'll get on the level of the lesbians

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Idk what to do. I might be trans, might just be someone who wants to look cute and I can't tell the difference anymore. Also permanently transitioning will come at great personal cost and might be a unique safety issue. Also I never had any dysphoric thoughts before 26-27y of age. I'm 31 now I've lived most of my life as a straight man maybe just keep going lmao. But I do have gender envy for days. Point being why now. Also it'll break my mother's heart if she so much as sees me in a skirt. Dad's too lol. Say what you will about 'that's on them, not your problem, transphobes bad' I can't help but love and care about them, they've really tried as parents. they're just heavily indoctrinated old ppl with calcified brains.

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Sylvia Rivera, born on July 2 in 1951, was a Latina American queer rights activist, member of the Gay Liberation Front, and community worker from the state of New York. Rivera, who identified as a "half-sister", participated in demonstrations with the Gay Liberation Front. With her close friend Marsha P. Johnson, Rivera co-founded the Street Transvestite Action Revolutionaries (STAR), a socialist group dedicated to helping homeless young drag queens, gay youth, and trans women. At different times in her life, Rivera battled substance abuse and lived on the streets, largely in the gay homeless community at the Christopher Street docks. Her experiences made her more focused on advocacy for those who, in her view, mainstream society and the assimilationist factions of the LGBT community were leaving behind. Rivera died during the dawn hours of February 19th, 2002, at St. Vincent's Hospital, of complications from liver cancer. Activist Riki Wilchins said this of her: "In many ways, Sylvia was the Rosa Parks of the modern transgender movement, a term that was not even coined until two decades after Stonewall". - [Street Transvestite Action Revolutionaries](https://www.workers.org/2006/us/lavender-red-73/) - [Remember the radicalism of Sylvia Rivera and Marsha P Johnson](https://socialistworker.co.uk/long-reads/rivera-johnson/) - [“Our armies are rising:” Sylvia Rivera and Marsha P. Johnson ](https://www.liberationschool.org/our-armies-are-rising-sylvia-rivera-and-marsha-p-johnson/) **Megathreads and spaces to hang out:** - 📀 Come listen to music and Watch movies with your fellow [Hexbears nerd, in Cy.tube](https://live.hexbear.net/c/movies) - 🔥 Read and talk about a current topics in the [News Megathread](https://hexbear.net/post/2890555) - ⚔ Come talk in the [New Weekly PoC thread](https://hexbear.net/post/2891626) - ✨ Talk with fellow Trans comrades in the [New Weekly Trans thread](https://hexbear.net/post/2891624) **reminders:** - 💚 You nerds can join specific comms to see posts about all sorts of topics - 💙 Hexbear’s algorithm prioritizes comments over upbears - 💜 Sorting by new you nerd - 🌈 If you ever want to make your own megathread, you can reserve a spot [here nerd](https://hexbear.net/post/261657) - 🐶 Join the unofficial Hexbear-adjacent Mastodon [instance toots.matapacos.dog](https://toots.matapacos.dog/explore) **Links To Resources (Aid and Theory):** **Aid:** - 🌈 [LGBTQ+ Resource Post](https://hexbear.net/post/279079) - 🍉 [Resources for Palestine](https://buildpalestine.com/2021/05/15/trusted-organizations-to-donate-to-palestine/) - [🐌☕ Zapatista Coffee](https://schoolsforchiapas.org/store/coffee-corn-and-agricultural/zapatista-coffee/) **Theory:** - ❤️[Foundations of Leninism](https://www.marxists.org/reference/archive/stalin/works/1924/foundations-leninism/index.htm) - ❤️[Anarchism and Other Essays](https://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/emma-goldman-anarchism-and-other-essays)

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http://ereserve.library.utah.edu/Annual/ENGL/7740/Potolsky/beast.pdf

cross-posted from: https://hexbear.net/post/2886858 > [I want to share with you all an essay that has been particularly influential on my way of thinking](http://ereserve.library.utah.edu/Annual/ENGL/7740/Potolsky/beast.pdf), kind of a skeleton key for how I think about a lot of issues of surrounding male sexuality, and one that might also serve as an entry point into people’s individual inquiries into theory generally or queer theory more specifically. > > I encourage you to read the whole thing if you’re at all interested, but this is a work of literary theory. Sedgwick is interested in analyzing the literature of a time in which the conceptualization of homosexuality was changing, and drawing conclusions from them. It’s all great stuff, but I understand not everyone here may find extended analyses of Thackery and Henry James to be their cup of tea, so I’m going to restrict myself to glossing the first section which summarizes most of the key theoretical concepts that she uses in her analysis. > > Sedgwick starts off by discussing the work of Alan Bray in order to situate the historical perception of homosexuality in England. Prior to the 19th Century, homophobia was intense, but also theologized, a manifestation of the ultimate disorder and the Antichrist, but simultaneously not something highly relevant to people’s everyday lives: “sodomy was … not an explanation that sprang easily to mind for those sounds from the bed next to one’s own – or even for the pleasure of one’s own bed” (Sedgwick 184). This began to change as the eighteenth century gave way to the 19th as a much more secular and psychologized homophobia began to develop. Readers of Foucault will note that he makes a very similar argument in The History of Sexuality, and indeed Sedgwick references him later in the essay. > > This shift coincided with new kinds of persecutions. Gay men had long been subject to “‘pogrom’-like” legal persecutions, which had a disproportionate effect due to their random nature, but now, with this new secular homophobia, all men, whether gay or not, became unable to determine whether their bonds with other men were free of any homosexuality. Thus this relatively small-scale legal violence could now have an effect that ramified out through society at large. Sedgwick calls this “homosexual panic”: “The most private, psychologized form in which many … western men experience their vulnerability to the social pressure of homophobic blackmail” (185). It is precisely because what is “homosexual” as a concept is arbitrary and forever shifting, unable to be pinned down, that a man can never be totally certain that he is clear of it and the consequences that come from being labeled with it. This is particularly true in the 19th century because “the paths of male entitlement required certain intense male bonds that were not readily distinguishable from the most reprobated bonds” (185). On one hand, society virtually mandated intense male bonds (boarding schools, the military, etc.), but on the other hand, absolutely forbade that these bonds cross over into homosexuality, ensuring continual anxiety on the part of men about their relationships transgression this invisible and constantly shifting boundary: “In these institutions, where men’s manipulability and their potential for violence are at the highest possible premium, the *pre*scription of the most intimate male bonding and the *pro*scription of (the remarkably cognate) ‘homosexuality’ are both stronger than in civilian society–are, in fact, close to absolute” (186). > > If you’ve ever wondered why many all-male institutions (sports, the military, etc.) are on one hand virulently heterosexual and homophobic, yet, on the other hand, homoerotic or in some undefinable sense “gay,” this is why. These institutions mandate close bonds while absolutely forbidding them from being erotic in nature, in a way that casts a constant shadow of homosexuality over them. In turn, these institutions and the individuals involved must be at pains to constantly assert their heterosexuality to the extent that it in turn calls their straightness into question. “The lady doth protest too much, methinks.” All male relationships stand under the shadow of homosexuality by their very nature. The desire for intimacy between men, whether enforced or not, is always under the shadow of the prohibition of becoming *too* close. Meanwhile the constantly shifting and arbitrary nature of “homosexuality” keeps men from becoming to comfortable that they are safely outside boundaries of the dreaded gayness. Is wearing your hair long gay? Maybe! Dressing nice? Maybe! Washing your ass? Maybe! Having sex with a woman? Quite possibly! Who knows? Paradoxically it is only the openly homosexual man that is free of this double bind. > > This essay is particularly influential in queer literary theory, because it provides a framework for understanding the queerness inherent in texts that are not explicitly gay. Wherever men are, homosexuality follows them, relentlessly, inescapably. Those characters, good friends, is it truly totally platonic? Those two enemies whose hate for one another consumes them, say Batman and Joker, is there not something a bit erotic about their all-consuming obsession for each other? The domain of queer theory, then, is not merely the ghetto of officially queer texts, but rather everywhere. The very act of censoring, silencing and excising homosexuality from art only ensures that it is paradoxically ever present and inescapable, and this is true of the world, not only of the text. > > I’ve long been interested in trying to expose people to a broader conception of theory on here (I’ve been" threatening to write an essay on what "The Death of the Author actually says for a long, long time ![barthes-shining](https://lemm.ee/api/v3/image_proxy?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.hexbear.net%2Fpictrs%2Fimage%2Fc326e004-ef50-4a26-ae89-6867a92a8394.png "emoji barthes-shining")). If this stuff is interesting to you, let me know.

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This may be the single worst and most heinous cooption of Pride I have ever seen. ![internet-delenda-est](https://lemm.ee/api/v3/image_proxy?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.hexbear.net%2Fpictrs%2Fimage%2F20bb5a59-1046-454c-b9be-99e963c37149.png "emoji internet-delenda-est")

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My sloptube feed is experiencing a dire lack of homosexuality, and its genders are too binary. Pls. Bonus points if the channel is abt books ![badeline-jokerfied](https://lemm.ee/api/v3/image_proxy?url=https%3A%2F%2Fhexbear.net%2Fpictrs%2Fimage%2Fe1c3456f-c335-463f-acbe-29e18016cd50.png "emoji badeline-jokerfied")

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coming to the close of another (US) Pride month, and again we're still transfixed on Drag Queens being the only thing worth putting in the spotlight nothing against drag, just generally tired that it's 2024 and it's still the same thing over and over again, and it wouldn't be so bad if it was just the tippy top of disconnected-from-culture corpos but even on the small scale the words 'Pride' and 'Drag' are treated as one-for-one interchangeable i get why, Drag Queens present a personality and character that can more easily be attached to advertising, but still it's a drag (pun intended)

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https://x.com/oldwitchsring/status/1802105054733664321

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Back in the 00s, the anti-LGBT culture war targeted primarily gay people, and it primarily used religious arguments. The Bible condemns homosexuality, marriage is a sacred institution, it's a violation of Christians' rights to make their churches marry gay people, &c. Clearly, it didn't work. During the 10s, when gay marriage was legalized, conservatives were dealt a pretty decisive blow on their anti-gay agenda, and so they shifted from targeting the LGB to targeting the T (they always targeted trans people, of course, but they really ramped it up during the 10s). With this change in focus came a shift in rhetoric. The right-wing certainly does argue for oppressing trans people on religious grounds, but you're a lot more likely to hear them use scientific-sounding justifications. They'll talk about chromosomes, about anatomy, about how "biologically there are only two genders," about "people trying to put their feelings above objective reality." They'll throw around words like "rational" and "reason." This of course ignores all kinds of actual science, such as the degree to which gender is culturally constructed, the existence of intersex people, how gender affirming care is the only dysphoria treatment shown to be effective, and a thousand other things. It's anti-scientific to its core, but it can fool a casual observer into thinking it's scientific if it's telling them what they want to hear. It's a bigotry for a materialist age, palatable to bazinga brains and nu-atheist Redditors, and maybe it's just anecdotal, but it seems to me to have more traction among a younger, hipper crowd than the religious arguments ever did. I can't help but wonder if this pivot was concocted in some right-wing think tank somewhere.

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Proven beyond all doubt by the recent survey

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archive.org

To run the HyperCard stack: Start up the page's emulated mac, open the "Disk" disk, and double-click the icon. I wasn't sure if this should go here or in games... --- *Programmed by CM Ralph in 1989, Caper in the Castro is likely the first LGBT game. It was distributed via BBS, and is 'Charityware', with the designer asking players to donate to the AIDS Charity of their choice.* *You are the world famous lesbian private detective, Tracker McDyke. You are searching for a kidnapped drag queen, Tessy LaFemme. What you didn't count on was stumbling onto an even larger and more treacherous crime.* *The game was changed to different locations and a heterosexual them released under the name "Murder on Main Street". This version is located here.* *For more information about "Caper in the Castro"*: [https://www.npr.org/2023/01/27/1151702216/how-the-first-lgbtq-video-game-was-given-a-second-life](https://www.npr.org/2023/01/27/1151702216/how-the-first-lgbtq-video-game-was-given-a-second-life). *C.M. Ralph maintains a website at [https://www.cmralph.com/ ](https://www.cmralph.com/)*

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The rainbow flag or pride flag is a symbol of LGBT pride and LGBT social movements. The colors reflect the diversity of the LGBT community and the spectrum of human sexuality and gender. Using a rainbow flag as a symbol of LGBT pride began in San Francisco, California, but eventually became common at LGBT rights events worldwide. Originally devised by the artists Gilbert Baker, Lynn Segerblom, James McNamara and other activists, the design underwent several revisions after its debut in 1978, and continues to inspire variations. Although Baker's original rainbow flag had eight colors, from 1979 to the present day the most common variant consists of six stripes: red, orange, yellow, green, blue, and violet. The flag is typically displayed horizontally, with the red stripe on top, as it would be in a natural rainbow. LGBT people and allies currently use rainbow flags and many rainbow-themed items and color schemes as an outward symbol of their identity or support. There are derivations of the rainbow flag that are used to focus attention on specific causes or groups within the community (e.g. transgender people, fighting the AIDS epidemic, inclusion of LGBT people of color). In addition to the rainbow, many other flags and symbols are used to communicate specific identities within the LGBT community. Variations: - **Original Gilbert Baker Design** ![](https://lemm.ee/api/v3/image_proxy?url=https%3A%2F%2Fhexbear.net%2Fpictrs%2Fimage%2F6d4616ee-0ba8-4cb4-b833-1a5f3bfa6075.png) Inspired by the lyrics of Judy Garland’s Over the Rainbow, and the designs used by other social movements such as black civil rights groups from the 1960s, the Rainbow Flag was created. Baker hand-dyed and hand sewed this flag which flew at the San Francisco Gay Freedom Day in June 1978. **Seven-color version due to unavailability of pink fabric** ![](https://lemm.ee/api/v3/image_proxy?url=https%3A%2F%2Fhexbear.net%2Fpictrs%2Fimage%2F6c791452-22c6-40b6-b445-432d2b6c38b5.png) Following the assassination of Harvey Milk in 1978, many people and organisations adopted the Pride flag that he helped to introduce to the community. The demand was so great for a rainbow striped flag, it was impossible for the 8-stripe design to be made in large quantities. Both Paramount and Baker struggled to obtain the hot pink fabric and so began manufacturing a 7-stripe version. **Traditional Gay Pride Flag** ![](https://lemm.ee/api/v3/image_proxy?url=https%3A%2F%2Fhexbear.net%2Fpictrs%2Fimage%2F679d49f0-2fe3-46d5-a699-47c5588a281d.png) In 1979 the design was amended again. The community finalised this six-colour version and this is now the most familiar and recognisable design for the LGBT flag. Numerous complications over the odd number of stripes, including the desire to split the flag to decorate Pride parades, meant that one colour had to be dropped. The turquoise and indigo stripes were combined to create a royal blue stripe and it was agreed that the flag should typically be flown horizontally, with red at the top, as it would be in a natural rainbow. This design continued to increase in popularity around the world, being a focal point of landmark decisions such as John Stout fighting for his right to fly the flag from his apartment balcony in 1989. **Progress Pride Flag** ![](https://lemm.ee/api/v3/image_proxy?url=https%3A%2F%2Fhexbear.net%2Fpictrs%2Fimage%2Ff584649a-45a5-48db-99a8-90bd3b4c56cc.png) In June 2018, designer and activist Daniel Quasar released an updated version of the Pride flag. Combining the new elements of the Philadelphia design and the Transgender flag to bring focus on further inclusion and progress. This new flag added a chevron to the hoist of the traditional 6-colour flag which represents marginalised LGBTQ+ communities of colour, those living with HIV/AIDS and those who’ve been lost, and trans and non-binary persons. This design went viral and was quickly adopted by people and pride parades across the world. The arrow of the chevron points to the right to show forward movement, while being on the left edge shows that progress still needs to be made for full equality, especially for the communities the chevron represents. **Intersex Inclusive Progress Pride Flag** ![](https://lemm.ee/api/v3/image_proxy?url=https%3A%2F%2Fhexbear.net%2Fpictrs%2Fimage%2Ffa44a2f1-ed88-4004-a84d-0a88fd42d425.png) In 2021, Valentino Vecchietti of Intersex Equality Rights UK adapted the Pride Progress flag design to incorporate the intersex flag, creating the Intersex-Inclusive Pride flag 2021. The intersex community uses the colours purple and yellow as an intentional counterpoint to blue and pink, which have traditionally been seen as binary, gendered colours. The symbol of the circle represents the concept of being unbroken and being whole, symbolising the right of Intersex people to make decisions about their own bodies. **Megathreads and spaces to hang out:** - 📀 Come listen to music and Watch movies with your fellow [Hexbears nerd, in Cy.tube](https://live.hexbear.net/c/movies) - 🔥 Read and talk about a current topics in the [News Megathread](https://hexbear.net/post/2635356) - ⚔ Come talk in the [New Weekly PoC thread](https://hexbear.net/post/2637659) - ✨ Talk with fellow Trans comrades in the [New Weekly Trans thread](https://hexbear.net/post/2635918) **reminders:** - 💚 You nerds can join specific comms to see posts about all sorts of topics - 💙 Hexbear’s algorithm prioritizes comments over upbears - 💜 Sorting by new you nerd - 🌈 If you ever want to make your own megathread, you can reserve a spot [here nerd](https://hexbear.net/post/261657) - 🐶 Join the unofficial Hexbear-adjacent Mastodon [instance toots.matapacos.dog](https://toots.matapacos.dog/explore) **Links To Resources (Aid and Theory):** **Aid:** - 🌈 [LGBTQ+ Resource Post](https://hexbear.net/post/279079) - 🍉 [Resources for Palestine](https://buildpalestine.com/2021/05/15/trusted-organizations-to-donate-to-palestine/) - [🐌☕ Zapatista Coffee](https://schoolsforchiapas.org/store/coffee-corn-and-agricultural/zapatista-coffee/) **Theory:** - ❤️[Foundations of Leninism](https://www.marxists.org/reference/archive/stalin/works/1924/foundations-leninism/index.htm) - ❤️[Anarchism and Other Essays](https://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/emma-goldman-anarchism-and-other-essays)

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Happy pan visibility day! 🩷💛🩵 Due to some queer accounts on Instagram posting about celebrations of today, I had to get reminded that there are still some awful queer people focusing on discourse about that "bi vs. pan" shit. There is a tendency for [battle-axe bisexuals](https://lgbtqia.wiki/wiki/M-Spec_Exclusionist) to state that "bisexual and pansexual mean the exact same thing" with the intent of equating the two because they want to invalidate anyone who identifies as pansexual instead of just identifying as bisexual, but I realized something... this is actually biphobic as hell, not bi-affirming like they think! Of course, sexual orientation labels are neologisms for a person's own comfort, so being linguistically prescriptivist about them at all is absolute nonsense that anyone who perpetuates this "bi vs. pan" shit doesn't understand. However, to illustrate my point coherently, a common definition of "pansexual" is a sexual orientation which entails not regarding gender in your attraction. If a battle-axe bisexual asserts something like "Well, bisexuality means not regarding gender too!", then they are literally **invalidating every fucking bisexual person that regards gender in their attraction** (and there are tons of those). There are many bisexual people who will *explicitly* say that they regard gender. To grasp at straws so hard to invalidate people who identify as pansexual that you'll shit out a misconceived biphobic myth that invalidates numerous bisexual people is basically saying "being indirectly biphobic to own the goofy MOGAI pans." I identify as both bisexual and pansexual simultaneously, so every time this kind of discourse comes up, especially when people have the intent to put bisexuality and pansexuality as "at war" with each other makes me double facepalm. No one should invalidate anyone's identity. No one should invalidate their own personal interpretation of it. Pansexual people should respect how bisexual people identify themselves. Bisexual people should respect how pansexual people identify themselves. Everyone should just respect other people's labels **PERIOD!** Bottom line is that the LGBTQ+ community needs to get over label discourse and policing entirely. You'd think "respect people in how they personally identify" wouldn't be a controversial take for queer people **BUT...** here we are. ![hexbear-pan](https://lemm.ee/api/v3/image_proxy?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.hexbear.net%2Fpictrs%2Fimage%2F51671632-ceaa-4c85-9372-12a8880c4009.png "emoji hexbear-pan") ![hexbear-bi-2](https://lemm.ee/api/v3/image_proxy?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.hexbear.net%2Fpictrs%2Fimage%2Fe2c06bf3-795e-451c-b4de-76f28434ec50.png "emoji hexbear-bi-2") Love all of my m-spec buddies, BTW!

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A while ago I was kinda surprised that my attractions shifted predominantly towards men. I knew I was bi for years and was alright with that but, still was predominantly attracted to women. Then for the last couple of weeks my interest in women picked up. Now, I feel myself shifting interest to men again but, not as strongly as the last time. I guess upon reflection, my growing romantic attraction to men is what probably drove the recent increase in my attraction to the same sex. That was a more recent development that happened in the last year when I tried browsing OLD sites again. I started looking at the men I saw as potential long term partners in a way I only thought about with women until that point. Does anyone else deal with this too? Edit: Sorry if the response time was a bit laggy, my shit was longer than usual today.

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www.aljazeera.com

![gayroller-2000](https://lemm.ee/api/v3/image_proxy?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.hexbear.net%2Fpictrs%2Fimage%2F355f19cb-7820-4ce5-b92e-dea5451ae3ae.png "emoji gayroller-2000")

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I believe I generally understand the concept of the (trans, not Star Trek) usage of "The Prime Directive" but as a cis person, I don't really seem to get why. If a person you know and are close to starts to act or talk in a way like they are possibly trans, why is it... not proper, for lack of a better term, to genuinely tell them "I think you might want to seriously explore these feelings"? It feels like you should? Like you should be reassuring to someone who feels like this?

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www.queerliberationlibrary.org

Just wanted to publicise this library for folks. Membership is free and they run on donations to get queer literature out there on the world, especially where it would otherwise be inaccessible or unsafe for people. It is part of the Libby network. Idk if it's just a product of their catalogue being small because they have just started up but unfortunately they didn't pass the Leslie Feinberg or Ursula Le Guin vibe check but it's still promising despite that fact. Of course there's almost everything at your fingertips thanks to LibGen and similar sites but it's worth remembering that non-black market queer libraries directly support queer authors and promote queer culture, and not everyone is fluent or comfortable with pirating ebooks so this library meets a need that doesn't really get met elsewhere.

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https://nitter.net/Aiphelix/status/1686802166764236818

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https://nitter.net/supacreamss/status/1742023816291709329 (This was originally posted in the games comm, got removed but apparentlt that was just because inappropriate *for the comm* and its fine *here* )

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For reference, I am a trans girl and pretty sure I'm Endosex. I do not know any openly intersex people IRL. Is the term GRSM inclusive of intersex people, and if not and it should be, what alternatives besides LGBTQIA+ are? (I've heard Quiltbag and Mogai as well but apparently they are both problematic? Idk but apparently Quiltbag feeds into gay stereotypes and Mogai divides the overrall community but I have no idea). I would appreciate responses from Intersex comrades if possible, but I'd love any form of help on this issue. Thanks <3

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I have well meaning people at a party who are trying to describe their friend who is supposedly gender fluid but they dont really know how to talk about them? Do you just refer to gender fluid people as they/them until they tell you how they feel that day/week/whatever? Do you refer to them as what you last were calling them? Id look it up but im very drunk and i dont teuat googlr in this state lol

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I swear I came across every other couple being exactly this when I lived in the US.

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Have any queer vibes to share? Here's your place! ![hexbear-pride](https://hexbear.net/pictrs/image/ee63c73a-f98f-40ed-8fdb-8276813ccb01.gif "hexbear-pride") Talk about what’s happening queerly in your life - like coming out, getting HRT, questioning, and all that good stuff. ![blob-no](https://hexbear.net/pictrs/image/91ab8f48-4138-4781-acfe-ca67a1d25f9e.png "blob-no") **No cishets allowed!** ![no-copyright](https://hexbear.net/pictrs/image/55448c98-bc4d-4673-8651-05b80c285d64.png "no-copyright")

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Stormé DeLarverie, born on December 24th in 1920, was a biracial queer icon whose reported scuffle with police was the spark that ignited the Stonewall Riots in 1969. She is sometimes referred to as the "Rosa Parks of the gay community" or "Rosa Parks of Stonewall". DeLarverie was born in New Orleans to a black mother and a white father, and spent the 50s and 60s as a "male impersonator" in the Jewel Box Revue, the period's only racially integrated drag troupe. Her gender-bending style of zoot suits and black ties was groundbreaking for the era. On June 28th, 1969, at the Stonewall Inn in Greenwich Village, New York City, a scuffle broke out when a woman, believed to be Stormé, was roughly escorted from the door of the bar to the waiting police wagon. The woman fought with at least four of the police, swearing and shouting, for about ten minutes. When she shouted to the bystanders "Why don't you guys do something?", the crowd began rioting and clashed with police. >"It was a rebellion, it was an uprising, it was a civil rights disobedience - it wasn’t no damn riot." - Stormé DeLarverie [A Brief History of Stormé DeLarverie, Stonewall’s Suiting Icon ](https://www.gq.com/story/storme-delarverie-suiting) **Megathreads and spaces to hang out:** - ❤️ Come listen to music and Watch movies with your fellow [Hexbears nerd, in Cy.tube](https://live.hexbear.net/c/movies) - 💖 Come talk in the [New Weekly Queer thread](https://hexbear.net/post/1333956) - 💛 Read and talk about a current topics in the [News Megathread](https://hexbear.net/post/1357019) - ⭐️ [September Movie Nominations](https://hexbear.net/post/451216) ⭐️ **reminders:** - 💚 You nerds can join specific comms to see posts about all sorts of topics - 💙 Hexbear’s algorithm prioritizes comments over upbears - 💜 Sorting by new you nerd - 🌈 If you ever want to make your own megathread, you can reserve a spot [here nerd](https://hexbear.net/post/261657) - 🐶 Join the unofficial Hexbear-adjacent Mastodon [instance toots.matapacos.dog](https://toots.matapacos.dog/explore) **Links To Resources (Aid and Theory):** **Aid:** - 🌈 [LGBTQ+ Resource Post](https://hexbear.net/post/279079) - 💚 [Resources for Palestine](https://buildpalestine.com/2021/05/15/trusted-organizations-to-donate-to-palestine/) - [🐌☕ Zapatista Coffee](https://schoolsforchiapas.org/store/coffee-corn-and-agricultural/zapatista-coffee/) **Theory:** - ❤️[Foundations of Leninism](https://www.marxists.org/reference/archive/stalin/works/1924/foundations-leninism/index.htm) - ❤️[Anarchism and Other Essays](https://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/emma-goldman-anarchism-and-other-essays)

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What states should other gender identities and sexualities get? Personally I'm claiming New York for bisexuals ![flag-bi-pride](https://www.hexbear.net/pictrs/image/5024c0aa-a33a-4cdf-9e9e-61358a55b764.png "emoji flag-bi-pride")

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